Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy focuses on your perception of yourself, the world and other people around you, and how this affects the way you think, feel and react.
Situations can be interpreted differently, depending on how we perceive the events around us, and this perception can have a knock on effect in relation to our emotions and behaviours.
Consider the following example:
Your at work: You hand your boss some work that you have put a lot of time and effort into. She takes the work and puts it on her desk without much reaction and gets back to what she was doing.
Thought: She’s dismissed my work, she thinks it’s not good enough, she doesn’t like me.
Emotion: Feeling useless, frustrated and upset.
Physically: Stomach in knots.
Behaviour: Won’t make so much effort in the future and will avoid the boss, full on negative internal chatterbox going on for the rest of the day.
A healthier response to the same situation:
Thought: She is probably busy and will take a proper look later.
Emotion: Optimistic & hopeful that she’ll like it & notice how much effort I put in.
Behaviour Ask the following day if she’d had an opportunity to check it out yet.
These are two very different paths that lead from the same event.
By making links between what we do, think, and feel, CBT can help us make changes in the way we think (“Cognitive”) and the way we act (“Behaviour”).
Making changes to our thoughts will have affect on what you do and feel, and changes what we do, affects the way we think and feel. Making these changes then help us feel better & react differently.
Whilst it is helpful to discuss the past and understand how our pasts have influenced our lives and how problems have arisen, CBT mostly focuses on ways to improve your mental wellbeing in the now.
It is not the event itself which causes our emotions, but how we interpret that event based on the meaning we give to it.
CBT can help you to break the vicious cycles of negative thinking, feelings and behaviours. When you see the parts of the vicious cycle clearly, you can change them- therefore change the way you feel and react.
NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming
Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) could be described as a software manual for the brain. NLP is a proven model for accelerating positive change and is used as a means to improve the way we as humans think, feel and behave.
NLP is a model of communication that focuses on identifying and using patterns of language and thought to influence a person’s behaviour. It offers a definition of how the brain works (neuro) & about how language interacts with the brain (linguistic) and how we use this interaction to get the results we want for ourselves and others (programming). NLP is a method that I use to help clients to bring about positive change as to how they think, feel and behave in life. NLP was initially created by linguist Dr John Grinder and computer scientist and Gestalt therapist Dr Richard Bandler. Together they produced a linguistic model that identified the language patterns of a few exceptionally gifted individuals such as hypnotherapist Milton Erickson, Fritz Perls of Gestalt therapy and anthropologist Gregory Bateson.The collection of their findings, a blend of cognitive and behavioural science, resulted in the technology known today as Neuro Linguistic Programming.
Hypnotherapy uses Hypnosis to induce a deep state of relaxation, during which our unconscious minds are highly receptive to alternative perspectives and ideas.
The reason it’s so effective lies in the extreme power of our unconscious mind, which stores all the memories, beliefs, habits and behaviours we’ve develop since birth. Prior to us responding to any external stimuli, we automatically access our unconscious and use its stored data to analyse how best to respond. And given our unconscious is primarily concerned with keeping us safe, well and happy, it usually provides us with good information to help us respond in the most helpful and resourceful manner.
However, as a result of the way we learn, it sometimes also stores and provides us with poor information, which results in many of life’s problems. From birth we learn by modelling other peoples behaviours and beliefs (many of which can be unhelpful), and we also place significant prominence on our own emotional experiences (again a lot of which can be negative) and both these conditioned and learned responses stay with us over time.
Hypnosis is an amazing tool for positive change & can help clients achieve this positive change in a most natural way. The unconscious mind is where everything you have ever learnt & experienced in life is stored, such as your habits, emotional, skills, just like a sponge soaking it all in.
A really simple example might relate to a phobia of birds. We are not born with an inherent fear of birds, far from it; we are born with a naturally positive curiosity for all things within our immediate environment. A fear of birds can only be developed in one of two ways: either we see other people’s fear and model our response accordingly (a conditioned response); or we have a scary experience ourselves that becomes the prominent information stored in our unconscious (a learned response) and as such, fear becomes our unilateral response to birds. Making sense so far?
And then over time, as we develop these unhelpful beliefs (e.g. Birds are dangerous), or unwanted behaviours (e.g. Irrational behaviour & freaking out at the mere sight of a bird), we simply end up re-accessing and replaying them time and time again …. this becomes our habitual response. And this model can be applied to any phobia, addiction, stress or anxiety response, self-esteem issue, allergy and more or less all of our other unhelpful response in life.
We cannot consciously control our unconscious. If you think for a moment about a learnt behaviour such as learning to drive a car, we store that information in our unconscious and can access it as and when we need … could you consciously decide to unlearn how to drive a car? ( I’m guessing not!) Now apply the same principle to an addiction, phobia or anxiety response and you start to get the picture – to change any of these unhelpful responses for the better, we first need to change the information stored in our unconscious, or to provide the unconscious with newer and more helpful information.
This can be achieved through hypnosis. You see the reason why hypnosis is so effective is because it bypasses the conscious mind and creates a relaxed & altered state of consciousness, just like daydreaming during which attention is focused away from the present reality & attention can then be focussed towards particular images, thoughts, feelings, perspectives and behaviours which will help me to change or update the information stored in our unconscious, thus changing our unhelpful habitual responses.
This process is called Hypnotherapy, a safe and enjoyable process that can change lives in the most positive and exciting of ways. Our bodies already have the natural mechanisms to allow us to live normal, happy and fulfilling lives, but occasionally these natural mechanisms need a little help operating properly.
I use Hypnotherapy to help my clients achieve fast and long lasting change. Through removing limiting beliefs, irradiating unwanted behaviours and relieving anxiety and stress, my clients let go of limiting beliefs & get more of what they truly want in life.
I use a blend of therapies creating a bespoke treatment plan for you. I make sure you get exactly what you need from me to get you from where you are now, feeling stuck and taking you to where you want to be. We are all completely individual and this is always taken in to consideration when your treatment plan is created.
The best way to predict the future is to create it……